It’s funny how when you tell people you’re going to be way for a few months, how urgent it suddenly seems that they “catch up with you.”
While I appreciate the intention of all the great people in my life, this experience has made me have actually wanted to do less. I found myself declining invitations to catch up with people who wanted to see me before I left because as soon as I began to see the value of my time- the clearer it was to me who and what I wanted to spend my time towards.
At first I felt bad and then I realised I didn’t need to! This was part of the Surrender Experiment.
Moving away hasn’t made my time FEEL more valuable to me, but the truth is - it always has been, I just never valued it the way that I do now.
It’s made me live more mindfully.
Intention with time means that I always want to be choosing where I spend my time and why.
I’ve understood on a whole new level, how empowering it can be to say “no” to things that don’t totally feel like a 100% yes- and to instead, delegate your time for the people, places and things you do love and value.
With less time to squander and less energetic capacity to physically socialise in the past few weeks - I’ve also learn to love my own company and to appreciate those who meet me in the middle, and those who reach out to me out and make a genuine effort to support me.
These are the people who reciprocate the value of my time. And I towards theirs.
You want people in your world who will appreciate your time as much as their own. Not necessarily people who take it for granted or use up your time to make themselves feel validated.
Sometimes, it seems that as humans, we make plans with people as a way to feel better about ourselves. We invest in others as a way to yes, show support for them but also to show that we are a caring friend. This past few weeks has taught me that I don’t want to be that person nor do I want to be in relationships that operate that way either.
Genuine support will find its way to be expressed, regardless of the circumstances. A physical “catch up” means very little if it’s done in vain or because someone is moving away and you won’t see them for a long time.
As an individual- moving away very quickly shows you what you value. As your time becomes more precious, you begin to see what is worth your attention and energy. It is definitely one way to let what’s important to surface on its own.
I'm 3 days away from hopping on the plane.
Where did time go?
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